1092 fædre begår årligt selvmord

“Love doesn’t have limits nor does it know gender or borders”

Når jeg siger, at kærlighed ikke kender til begrænsninger, køn eller landegrænser – så mener jeg det bogstaveligt.

I første omgang er plakaten nu oversat til:

Fransk, Tyrkisk, Italiensk, Engelsk samt Dansk naturligvis.

På vej er:

Tysk, Bosnisk, Spansk, Portugisisk, Tjekkisk og Svensk.

Det er ikke kun i Danmark, at vi er særligt udfordret på det familieretslige område, når det kommer til at sikre vores børns ret til at blive hørt, samt at have forældre af begge køn i deres liv.

F.eks er der en forening i Australien, som hedder “21 fathers”.

Foreningen har netop dette navn, fordi der på landsplan i Australien gennemsnitligt er 21 fædre hver uge, der som resultat af uretmæssigt at være blevet berøvet kontakten med deres børn – begår selvmord.

Den lader vi lige stå lidt – så den kan bundfælle sig.

1092 fædre tager hvert år deres liv pga ovenstående problemstiling – alene i Australien.

Som fuld anerkendelse af, at dette tydeligvis ikke er et problem som begrænser sig til Danmark alene, og der således i resten af verden er folk som drukner og mister lysten til livet – og børnene som resultat heraf – mister den ene primære omsorgsperson, har vi sat os for at oversætte nedenstående opslag, som jeg skrev indledningsvist på engelsk på Facebook:

 

 

Opslaget indeholder som nævnt foroven den følgende tekst på engelsk (indsat i bunden af dette indlæg) samt audio-plakaten med lyd med engelske undertekster.

Det hele oversættes nu til ovennævnte sprog, og efterhånden som vi får arbejdet os igennem det – udgiver jeg separate indlæg med hvert sprog, som derefter kan deles i relevante foreninger i de pågældende lande.

Ingen forældre skal stå alene i disse sager.

Vi har herudover mange af nationaliteterne boende i de forskellige lande, hvor der er medlemmer af befolkningen, som ikke har tilegnet sig landet sprog, hvorfor det f.eks er relevant med en tyrkisk version af plakaten i Danmark eller Tyskland.

 

Teksten her er fra det engelske opslag:

 

“Love doesn’t have limits nor does it know gender or borders”

The situation here in Denmark in regards to the father’s rights when it comes to family law – is seriously challenging – mildly put.

But we Danish fathers are not the only ones to be stigmatised so, I’m writing this post in english, to reach out all you fathers out there who’s fighting the fight of your lives, to be able to take part in your childrens lives on equal terms to say:

‘Keep fighting and never back down’

But keep in mind at the same, that your children are watching the way you fight the fight – because you are constantly a role model to them.

I was asked yesterday, how I find the strength to keep fighting the system against all odds?

“Love” I replied.

I love my girls that much – and then some.

The person then said:

“I noticed, that you never, not even once, write anything negative or hatefull about your ex wife – or expose her in anyway – but don’t you hate her for stealing your kids and everything that she’s done to all of you?

Of course, I’m frustrated and disappointed at her, but it is the system that I need to change.

She and others do, what the do, because the system allows it – which is why it is the system I’m focused on changing.

Of course, it has been challenging for me to keep shouldering all the very serious accusations she and her family have been throwing at me, but my daughters need more from me than my physical and emotional presence.

They need to see how a father treats a mother and how a man treats a woman so, they can internalize that image and gravitate towards that when they grow older and will choose a man to treat them right.

“A father is a girl’s first love”

That’s why I put the bar that high.

I have send flowers to their mom on mother’s day.

No, not because I think she deserves to recieve them, but because my daughters are constantly watching – and they deserve to see it.

I conduct myself this way at all times, because of the love for my girls.

“Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”

The quote is often ascribed to Budha – and comes in many variaties, such as “holding on to hate… etc”

And I fully agree.

So I urge all you out there – fill your life and fight with love, because:

“What ever you draw your energy from – more of that you shall recieve”

Make sure to tap into love – even in the darkest hours.

You are not alone – and know this:

“It takes one percent – to create a hundred percent change”

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